21句话让你更有魅力21 Sentences that Will Make You MoreAttractive Than Most

提升个人魅力的实用指南

I’m not the worst – looking dude, but I wasn’t always attractive and frequently did things that were straight – up unattractive and pushed good people away.
说实话，我长得不算差，但我以前没什么吸引力，而且经常做出一些极其败好感、令人下头的事情，硬生生地把不少优秀的人都给推开了。

I learned a ton over the years in an attempt to improve my connections with other humans.
为了改善自己与他人社交的能力，这些年来我学了太多东西。

I put together this cheat sheet for quick reference.
所以我整理了这份速查表，方便快速查阅。

It’s something I wish I had years ago.
这些经验，我真希望自己在多年前就能悟到。

• Nurturing the art of being light – hearted and having fun, regardless of the circumstances, is an attractive skill.
  培养轻松幽默、在任何处境中都能保持愉悦心境的能力，是一门迷人的艺术。
• People are attracted to people who don’t appear to be attached to specific outcomes.
  不过分执着于具体结果的人，往往更具吸引力。
• When you’re overly self – conscious, you become less authentic and, therefore, less attractive.
  人一旦顾虑重重，就会渐渐失去真我，魅力也随之减弱。
• Have a clear understanding of what positive change you want to make in the world, and let this energise you more than needing approval from anyone.
  想清楚你想为世界带来怎样的积极改变，让这份信念，而非他人的认可，成为你能量的源泉。
• Use power poses and crazy, fun monkey dancing to prime the body for attractive confidence.
  用舒展的身姿和自由随性的舞步，为身体预热，准备好展现独具魅力的自信。
• Focusing more on listening than speaking will set you apart.
  侧重倾听，适当表达，这会让你在人群中脱颖而出。
• Withholding information about yourself, and not continually blabbering, will increase your sense of mystery, which is attractive.
  适当保留关于自己的信息，避免喋喋不休，会增加神秘感，提升魅力。
• Don’t change yourself just to please someone else, but don’t be overly cold, either.
  不必为取悦他人改变自我，但也不可过于冷漠。
• Instead of trying to calm yourself down, focus on calming others.
  与其费力平复自己的情绪，不如将关注点放在安抚他人上。
• Ask unique questions that few ask to set yourself apart and get the other talking.
  抛出与众不同的问题，既能展现自身独特，又能让对方打开话匣子。
• Soften your face and open your body language so you don’t appear so intense.
  舒展眉眼，保持从容体态，让自己不再显得紧绷局促。
• Attraction is closely rooted to confidence — and to be confident, you need to stop trying to be confident and just enjoy yourself.
  魅力根植于自信，而自信的真谛在于不再强求自信，全然享受当下的状态。
• Be willing to challenge and occasionally tease other people so you don’t come across as a boring average Joe who uses ‘niceness’ as a manipulative tool.
  敢于温和地挑战或调侃他人，避免成为那种用“友善”作为操控手段的平庸乏味之人。
• Stop waiting for validation, and bring your own relaxed energy.
  停止寻求外界认可，自带从容淡定的气场。
• Finding a way to be genuinely interested in other people will boost your confidence and make others more interested in you.
  对他人抱着真诚的好奇与兴趣，不仅能提升自信，也会让对方对你兴趣大增。
• Appropriate and occasional touching will deepen one’s sense of connection and often raises attraction.
  适时恰当的肢体接触，能加深情感联结并显著提升双方好感。
• Use slow, shallow nose breathing to activate the parasympathetic nervous system so you calm down and ease into your confident self.
  尝试放慢呼吸，用鼻子平缓吐纳，激活副交感神经，帮助你放松身心，从容展露自信。
• Attraction is about depth as much as it is about the superficial, so make sure you take care of your physical appearance.
  要吸引人需做到内外兼修，内在要有深度，外在也要讲究。请务必经营好你的形象。
• Instead of reacting angrily to criticism, smile, ignore and move on from any disrespect or drama.
  面对批评或闹剧，不必愤怒回击，付诸一笑并优雅转身才是上策。
• Slowing down makes life easier for you while raising your perceived status.
  放慢生活的步调，不仅能让你活得更从容，也会无形中提升你在他人眼中的分量。
• Quit bad habits that bring you shame so that you behave with a sense of pride and natural confidence that others will be drawn to.
  摒弃那些令你蒙羞的坏习惯，你的言行自会透着一份体面与自信，让人不由自主想靠近。