为什么有些人有无法抗拒的魅力呢Why Do Some People Radiate the Energy Others Can’t Resist?

During my college days, I had a friend named Shayla. She had a deep need to be loved and admired by everyone, especially boys…

在我读大学期间，我有一个名叫谢拉的朋友。她内心深处极其渴望被所有人，尤其是男生，爱慕与钦佩…

Once, she took things too far trying to impress another friend’s brother. He was engaged to be married, yet she was creeping up on him at dinner…

有一次，为了引起另一位朋友哥哥的注意，她做得太过火了。对方已经订婚，但她却在晚餐时不断对他暗送秋波…

I once noticed a writer who claimed to live in the US. While their descriptions of the broader details might sound convincing…

我曾注意到一位自称住在美国的作家。虽然他们对大体环境的描述听起来很令人信服…

I don’t deny that at times I write to entertain and pull out all the stops to make my blogs appealing…

我不否认，有时我也会为了娱乐读者而写作，并使出浑身解数让我的文章更有吸引力…

There are some writers that I am drawn to. When I see they’ve published, it puts a smile on my face…

有些作家总是深深地吸引着我。每当看到他们发布了新作品，我的脸上就会浮现出笑容…

Some of them are fearless in tackling tough topics that my generation still tries to gloss over…

他们中的一些人无所畏惧，敢于触碰我们这一代人仍试图粉饰太平的沉重话题…

They’re writing to connect, not wow you by who they are. Because it’s common in some cultures to stack up your achievements…

他们写作是为了与读者建立共鸣，而不是用自己的头衔来惊艳你。因为在某些文化中，人们习惯将成就当作小红花一样堆砌…

How do I know? Because their posts follow the 3 C’s — consistency, candor, and concrete details…

我是如何知道的呢？因为他们的文章遵循着“3C原则”——连贯、坦诚和具体的细节…

The Mirror Approach. How many of us are like Shayla — looking for a mirror to tell us we are enough or special, even?

镜面法则。我们中有多少人像谢拉一样——四处寻找一面镜子，只为让它告诉我们，我们已经足够好，甚至很特别？

I’ve often wondered whether it is inborn or the result of quiet work to be so self-contained and happy being themselves…

我时常在想，能够如此自洽、并乐于做真实的自己，以至于不再需要用言语作为诱饵…

Shayla’s “I would never” face was a performance to keep her social currency intact…

谢拉那副“我才不会那样”的面孔，不过是为了维持自身社交资本而做出的表演…

That’s in sharp contrast to naturally luminous people. They don’t even seem to be aware of their magnetic effect.

这与那些自带光芒的人形成了鲜明的对比。他们甚至似乎都没有意识到自己身上的磁场效应。

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